Principle #1
Don’t be in a Hurry:
“We can’t always control our schedules, even if it would be
nice to have more time…parents become more controlling when time is short, just
as they do when they’re in public. The combination of the two conditions is a killer.
When you have some quiet time, sit down with your spouse to determine where it
might be possible to change your schedule in order to reduce the likelihood of
having to rush your child…”Don’t be in a hurry” has another meaning. It might
be thought of as a remind to slow down and savor your time with your kids, they
grow up fast, and it’s true.” Kohn page 138-139
Doctrine and Covenants 88:32 “ And they who remain shall also be quickened; nevertheless they shall return again to their own place to enjoy that which they are willing to receive…”
“There is a beauty and clarity that comes from simplicity that we sometimes do not appreciate in our thirst for intricate solutions…Let us simplify our lives a little. Let us make the changes necessary to refocus our lives on the sublime beauty of the simple, humble path of Christian discipleship—the path that leads always toward a life of meaning, gladness, and peace”. President Dieter F. Uchtdorf
Principle #2
Can you spoil your Child with Love?
“If parents would worry more about not paying enough
attention to their children and less about spoiling them, the world would be a
better place…but I’ve never met a child who was worse off because his parents
loved him too much. It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love… your
child will not be harmed by being told every single day that you love him. Your
child will not be harmed by being reminded that she is a source of endless
happiness for you. Taking the time to rock your child to sleep before putting
her to bed is as good for you as it is for her. Steinberg page 27-31
While it make be possible to spoil kids with too many
things, it isn't possible to
Spoil them with too much (unconditional) love." Kohn
page 153
Moroni 8:17 “And I am filled with charity, which is
everlasting love; wherefore all children are alike unto me; wherefore, I love
little children with a perfect love; and they are all alike and partakers of
salvation.”
Jacob 3:7 “Behold their husbands love their wives, and their
wives love their husbands; and their husbands and their wives love their
children…”
Principle #3
Hear your Child’s Point of View
“You are not the only one who has an opinion about the rules
that structure your child’s life. Your child has a point of view, too. It’s
often a good idea to find out what it is. Sometimes your child’s opinion is
reasonable, sensible and logical. Many times, it’s not. But you’ll never know
if you never ask.” Steinberg page 170
Moses 1:2 “And he say God face to face, and he talked with him…”
Principle #4
The Failure of Rewards
“Researchers have found that children who are rewarded for
doing something nice are less likely to think of themselves as nice people. Instead
they tend to attribute their behavior to the reward. Then when there’s no
longer a good to be gained, they’re less likely to help than are kids who
weren’t given a reward in the first place…After all, they’ve learned that the
point of coming to someone’s aid is just to get a reward. Kohn page 32
Alma 26:11-12 “… I do not boast in my own strength, nor in
my own wisdom…yeah I know that I am nothing as to my strength I am weak;
therefore I will not boast of myself, but I will boast of my God”
Principle #5
Capabilities of Children
“…Some parents don’t understand-or else they just ignore-
how kids below a certain age simply can’t be expected to eat nearly or keep
quiet in a public place. Young children don’t yet possess the skills that would
make it sensible to hold them accountable for their behavior in the same what
that we hold an adult or even an older child accountable….They become
frustrated by what they see as inappropriate behavior and crack down on little
kids for being little kids.” Kohn page 100-101
Moroni 8:22 “For behold that all little children are alive
in Christ, and also all they that are without the law. For the power of
redemption cometh on all them that have no law; wherefore, he that is not
condemned, or he that is under no condemnation, cannot repent; and unto such
baptism availeth nothing.”
Principle #6
Adjust your parenting to your Childs temperament.
“All children come into the world with an inborn temperament
that influences how active they are, how easily they become frustrated or
distressed, and how well they adapt to change. Your child’s innate disposition
influences the way he responds to virtually everything he encounters.”
Steinberg page 70
1 Corinthians 7:7 “For I would that all men were even as I
myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and
another after that.”
Principle #7
Be Consistent
“ The easiest way to help a child learn how to behave
appropriately is to make her good behavior a habit that she doesn’t even have
to think about. You do this by being consistent from day to day in your
parenting…consistency in your daily routines will breed consistency in your
parenting.”
Doctrine and Covenants 3:1-2 “ The works, and the designs,
and the purposes of God cannot be frustrated, neither can they come to naught.
For God doth not walk in crooked paths, neither doth he turn to the right hand
nor to the left, neither doth he vary from that which he hath said, therefore
his paths are straight, and his course is one eternal round.”
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